I was at Oprah’s “Super Soul Sessions” in LA today and one of the speakers was Gary Zukav.
He said something that I thought you might find interesting!
At one point in his talk, he talked about negative emotions and the ‘parts of us’ or parts of our personality that experience those emotions.
One of the things he talked about was not running from or avoiding those parts but feeling and acknowledging them… all stuff you have talked about.
What was interesting, is he talked about choosing the healthiest grounded, most authentic part of our personality to respond from – when dealing with those negative or frightened parts.
Sounds aligned with what I believe, too, yep. We were talking in the webinar yesterday about how emotions have a life cycle, which is pretty short if you actually allow them to cycle:)
In my view, it goes like this:
Emotions are temporary events – they come and go. No matter how you’re feeling now, in a bit you’ll be feeling differently (if you don’t resist or avoid the emotion and get stuck in it).
The emotion comes on, intensifies, then wanes. Done! Positive and negative emotions go through the same cycle.
With negative or uncomfortable emotions, we tend to want to stop them. And that prevents them from completing their cycle. So, they come back again and again in the natural process of attempting to come to completion.
So, as Zukav says, when we accept whatever emotions we have without running from them, they….complete! It seems so simple, but avoiding discomfort, I believe, is a strong tendency of the conscious mind vs. the subconscious mind. Consciously, we hate discomfort. However, when we try to avoid it (it’s basically unavoidable:) we unwittingly invite more of it.
…seems to be that emotions demand some form of expression. They originate in our core and naturally move up and out through our face and eyes and do best when also given voice. Expressing emotions – showing and speaking them – brings with it all kinds of potential flack from other people who may be affected.
Taking this kind of punishment since childhood – for both positive and negative emotional expressions (before we learned to suppress and protect ourselves) is quite a training about what is safe and unsafe to do.
We could be programmed to avoid emotions on a very deep level and this creates massive opportunities to halt the natural cycle of emotions and get stuck in them forever.
Accepting, sitting with, expressing emotions is the path to healing them. Ah -and yes – learning to express emotions maturely – to minimize the social impact also seems like an important skill.
Tons to learn – I feel like doing some research on the scientific evidence to back these kinds of points. Do you know of any?